To-Do-List For Real Love - Santa Monica, CA
Last week end we celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary, and I thought back to how we met more than 20 years ago. I thought about how on paper it looked like this relationship could never work. Not only because we lived on separate continents in different time zones and had grown up in different worlds. I thought about how my future husband checked only a few boxes I had come up with for my next boyfriend after the last breakup. I thought about how happy I still am that I did neither follow reasonable advice friends gave me nor serious warnings that I gave myself.
Then, I wrote this poem:
To-Do-List For Real Love
Go ahead! Make your list of what your next companion has to be:
Nice, strong, filthy rich
A traveler of the world
A savvy business woman
A race car driver with a mansion
A nomad creating poems in a van
Write it all down
Even make a vow:
I will not tolerate another mattress on the floor
There will be no more pet-rats in my life
Not one night without whiskey
And ice cream every day that ends in 'y'
Whatever you think is not negotiable
Write it down
Then, when you ask yourself again:
Could this be love?
Throw all those words out of your window
Let them float away
Connect with the knowing
Deep inside without a name
If you feel even just a bit like you put on an itchy sweater
Turn around, leave and run
If you feel like the north star's light is guiding you
Stay, relax and trust
If you feel stillness ripple through your body
Nothing else matters
No promise given to yourself, your friends, your bible or your mom
A new adventure starts
With no one at the wheel
The only words of any value
Are silent now
And spoken by your heart
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